Friend or Enemy? / by James Leath

Do you consider yourself a friend, or an enemy?

I am not talking about what people think about you, I am talking about YOU! Are you an enemy of yourself? Do you punch yourself in the face with negative comments that would bring you to tears of someone said those same things to you?

While creating and maintaining a lifestyle of health and wellness, it is important to remember to get our "heads" in the game. If you spend 60 minutes at the gym thinking positive about yourself, excited that you made it and are burning calories, then go home only to discount yourself the other 23 hours, how much good did you do? Why not decide to accept how unhealthy and out of shape you are and move forward? Does telling yourself you are fat make you feel better? Does it make you skinny? No! It only hurts you.  Decide today to be your best friend, to be the loudest cheerleader and most encouraging friend.

ALl day long we chat with ourselves in our heads. We spend time criticizing ourselves, being demeaning, judging others, and saying things we would never say out loud (well, most of us anyway). We say things like: why try? I’m a failure.” This negative self-talk grinds us down emotionally and mentally. It affects the way we feel and how we perceive ourselves, and ultimately, how others see us. You see, we all fulfill the prophecies we make in our heads. "I am no good and no one likes me." If you are wrong now, eventually you will be right! Stop today. Pick up a copy of Jon Gordon's "The Energy Bus". He is one of my favorite authors and is an amazing man.

Here are some things you can say to yourself that will help, not hurt:

  • I can do this.
  • I have friends/support that care about me and will help me.
  • I am taking one day at a time. I did my best for today.
  • I am going to give 100% in this fitness activity for 3 more minutes.
  • My successes for today are….

So, what is it going to be: Friend or Foe? Leave me a comment and tell me what kind of friend you are to yourself.